Texting In Relationships

Texting and Relationships

Even in our closest relationships, we’re often likely to talk by text rather than face to face these days and in general, this is not a good idea.

The more important the communication, the more important it is that you do it in person.

Here’s the results from research at Brigham Young University that surveyed couples in committed relationships.

The major findings included men reporting less relationship satisfaction due to excessive texting.

For women, dissatisfaction arose when text was used to apologize or manage complex relationship issues and differences.

The good news is that everyone liked sharing endearments by text. If you want your texts to reduce stress and bring you closer together with your loved ones, try these mobile communication tips.

Steps to Take with Your Loved Ones

1. Be gentle. It can be tempting to say things by text that you would soften if you were talking to someone in the same room. Imagine how you would feel if you were on the receiving end.

2. Address conflicts directly. Using text to avoid an argument tends to backfire. Discussing sensitive issues works better when you can see each other and respond accordingly. If your partner already looks remorseful about forgetting your anniversary, you’ll know it’s time to drop the subject.

3. Apologize in person. Asking for forgiveness becomes more meaningful when you make a personal appearance. You’ll also be in a better position to prevent any further misunderstandings.

4. Listen to each other. Give each other your full attention. Watch for facial expressions, body language and other non-verbal cues.

5. Put your phone away. Except for emergencies, set your phone aside when you have company. Focus on the people around you.

6. Ask for a recess. It’s easy for a conversation to escalate when you’re texting back and forth. If things are getting too heated, suggest tabling the subject until you can get together later.

7. Hit delete. Holding onto electronic messages from your insurance company may come in handy in a dispute. When you’re texting with your loved ones, it’s better to let go of resentments than to archive them.

Overall, texting is great when you want to say something nice to each other. On the other hand, wait until you’re face to face to talk about the serious stuff. Look at texting as a supplement to talking rather than a replacement.